How to make my child safer

Parents love our children and many times we think we know what is best for them. We do not realize that they need their space, that sometimes we are too demanding and that we do not reinforce positive messages enough. In the long run, this can take its toll on the children, who may have developed an emotional dependence on their parents. Therefore, it is essential to help our children to grow in independence and since they were little, help them grow and become safe. It is not easy, but it can be achieved. In this article we give you guidelines to make your child safer .

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Do not reinforce negative messages, reinforce positive ones. Even things that you have not done well can be told in a more constructive way . For example, instead of saying: "You have disappointed, I have done everything for you", you could say: "Who you are disappointing is yourself, not me". Your child must understand that he does things for him, not to please his parents.

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If you have more than one child, do not compare him with his brothers. Undoubtedly, comparisons can cause low self-esteem. Do the opposite: it enhances its qualities more, favoring positive messages towards those things in which your child stands out: music, dancing, reading or simply, if he is a good soccer player.

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You have to become a pattern or model for them . Of course, we do not want children to imitate their parents but if they see a firm, safe and positive model in their parents, it will reinforce the child's self-esteem. If we are asking him to eat all the vegetables on the plate, we will have to give him an example. This way he will understand that his parents are a reference. And therefore, shouting and bad words are not allowed in the home.

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In order to make your child safer, it is very important that you help him express his feelings. It is crucial that you can feel comfortable to tell you if you are sad, if you are happy, if something is worrying you. But for this, you must create that climate of communication between the child and you and encourage moments a day so that your child can open up to you.

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The physical contact is incredibly refreshing. If you are not a loving person, you must try to change because people, and especially children, need a hug, a kiss, you give them your hand, you look them in the eyes, you tickle them ... They need the contact of skin with their parents' skin to reinforce safety and feel loved.

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It is very important to play with the children, interact with them and dedicate time. And it is also very necessary to promote safety in children to set realistic goals that they can meet. No unattainable goals, but things that the child can achieve to increase their motivation and security.