How to tell my parents that I am gay

Before telling your parents that you are gay, you must be aware that this is a shocking news for them because, like all the families of the world, they had imagined and thought about your life.

It is likely that your parents' first reaction is negative: they will be afraid of the unknown. Try to be patient and think that, little by little, your hurtful responses will be transformed into acceptance.

Keep reading this article and learn, step by step, how to tell your family members about your homosexuality :

How to say it and preparation

All families are different, therefore, there is no secret formula to tell your parents that you are lesbian or gay and get aired out of the situation.

In any case, there are common reactions: you will be surprised. You may have had suspicions about your sexual orientation for years and, even so, it will feel like a cold shower.

You have to be aware that, unless you are an exceptional case, your parents will go through an acceptance stage in which they will feel sad, disappointed and angry. They may use hurtful words without being really aware: be patient, they will eventually learn to accept it.

Reflect: Confidence and trusted family

If you feel safe with yourself, you have accepted and feel that it is time to tell your relatives: go ahead.

Now it's time for you to ask another question, are you going to tell both your parents at the same time? Perhaps you feel more affinity for your mother, or vice versa, or one of the two makes less homophobic comments and seems more sympathetic. Normally, many homosexuals choose the relative with whom they feel more secure: consider it.

Find the right time

Choose the perfect moment; all families have that right moment to talk about serious issues, look for it and take advantage of it when you feel it has arrived.

Try to announce it through honesty and love; If you feel like being honest with your relatives, it is precisely for these two reasons. If you do not know what to say, a "dad, mom, I am a lesbian / gay person may work for you and I would like to talk about this with you because I love you".

There are a thousand ways to come out of the closet and all are adequate; other people opt for a "dad, mom, I want to tell you something I've never told you for fear of rejection ..." or "I know since I was 10 years old that I'm gay but I did not tell you because I was afraid of hurting you" . You have innumerable ways of saying that you are homosexual, choose the one that best identifies your feelings.

Immediate reaction

Your parents may react by answering some hurtful phrase or question such as, "How can you be so sure at your age?", "This is the company ...", "We have all gone through a stage where we we ask what we like, you will be confused "and even" we will go to the psychologist ".

Keep in mind that homophobia (hatred and prejudice against homosexuals) is based on ignorance and only disappears when people with this disease acquire information. Try to maintain a positive attitude and fill yourself with patience on difficult days.

Get information material

Find a quality book, film or documentary that can help your parents accept your sexual orientation .

conclusion

You are an individual staff and your family has its own dynamic and way of being. Homosexuality is part of you and belongs to you the way to let other people know, how and when you want.

Since we wish you luck if you are living a difficult time and, remember, "It gets better".